Every new year’s eve we find ourselves in the same place right as the clock strikes midnight. If you’re like me, it’s with a mouthful of grapes trying to stuff twelve of them down with champagne, while attempting to make twelve wishes for each month of the new year! More on that some other time.
However, for the rest of ya’ll, you’re probably thinking about your resolutions for the new year: weight management, quitting smoking, finding that gal/guy, getting that job...You know, the usual suspects. All noble intentions. But when we’re honest with ourselves, I mean really honest, these are all serving to fill a void of some sort that we hope will help to achieve happiness. If I look better, I’ll be happier. If I just have that job, make that money, meet that someone, you know the drill.
This year, instead of assigning ourselves goals and then punishing ourselves or feeling guilty when we fail to meet them, I propose something different. I challenge you to resolve to sharpen the emotional and spiritual tools that will help you become a better human:
Tip: put the mobile phone down. Stop thinking of how you'll share the moment and just experience it, instead. Don’t take that selfie #banselfies
Tip: say “thank you” when you wake up for having one more day and "thank you" before going to bed for having made it through. For the technophiles who rather not keep a gratitude journal, use an app. Get Gratitude is a good one. Or take a happiness challenge and make it an intention to record one thing you're grateful for every day. I've done it and have felt a difference at the end. Plus, it's fun to share with family and friends. Spread the joy!
Tip: spend some quiet time with yourself, especially after all the holiday noise, to recoup! Visit family and friends with whom you can be completely unabashed. Volunteer for a cause you find rewarding. Do a little dance and make a little love!
Tip: take the things you’re angry about, write them down and after making the intention to let go, burn the paper and imagine yourself releasing the weight. Gain closure by telling someone you forgive them, or write them a letter if it's easier. Remember that every mistake, every embarrassing moment, every bit of pain has served to form character and create the person you are today. Embrace it as a lesson. The more weight you let go, the more good things you can take on. Start living!
In honor of International Women’s Day - and Women’s History Month - we want to celebrate bold, courageous women who have used the transformative power of love that lives inside of them to change the world, those who will always serve as role models and inspirations to women of all generations, ethnicities, backgrounds, and life paths.